I don't generally blog about feminism in a focused way. The way I think and feel and live and the equality philosophies that I believe in are going to seep into my personal perspective when writing. It's unavoidable, but I rarely sit down with the goal of posting specifically about feminism in itself.
The plain fact of the matter is - women who work for pay, or women who don't have children (because they haven't yet wanted to, they aren't physically able to, or they know they never want to) are familiar with the strident voices insisting they Mommy Up or Mommy Better or Mommy in the first place. And yet, a good portion of the feminist movement spends a lot of time outright villain-izing mothers (especially those who work inside the home as opposed to outside of it), completely forgets they exist, or treats them as if they can't make such choices AND consider themselves feminists. So much for solidarity of the sisterhood. Seriously, though, our society is still chock-full of patriarchal bullshit and oppression (not just from the menfolk) and there is push and pull on women from every side. You are damned by someone no matter what choices you make. Thankfully there ARE blogs out there that discuss feminist issues while being inclusive of mothers.
Feminism is not strictly reserved for college campuses or publishing houses or grass-roots women's rights organizations. The movement is furthered every time a seed is planted in a person's mind that leads to an equality-based shift in thinking. The movement is furthered in articles and conversations between people - women - mothers. The movement is furthered every time a woman exercises her freedom of choice to carve her own path in life. Yes - even when that choice is to work her ass off inside of her home instead of outside of it.
The choices I've made to love my body, respect my child's autonomy, sew my fingers raw and cook my own damn dinner are part of my personal activism. These choices were able to be made because of the freedom I claimed for myself. The fact that I write openly, honestly, and passionately about these things in a public arena, using my own name - That is also a choice, and one I'm proud of. One of my absolute favorite bloggers, Lesley Kinzel (who does not label herself as a feminist for many of these same reasons I've listed) once said, "Standing out is okay. Standing up is okay. Doing BOTH at once, well, that's activism."
Anyone who vilifies individual women's choices and lives is helping to set back feminism (and women. and mothers.) through a lack of support and solidarity. Judging individual people by making a sweeping generalization is only creating rifts where there needn't be any more. We all advocate for change in different ways! Some by getting into politics, some by writing about social change and human rights issues, some by instilling feminist values in their children, some by picketing and attending protests and city council meetings, some by bowling to raise money for feminist causes, some by living consensually and expecting their partners to be respectful and carry an equal load, some by educating themselves on the issues, some by going into midwifery or law or teaching, and... some by simply living their lives outside what is deemed "normal".
Solidarity and support of women (and their choices) is key to feminism. Full stop.